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Monday Morning Prayer ~ Jealousy & Envy

“Heavenly Father, your Word tells me how to love and being envious and jealous is not part of your divine love. Father, I am struggling with envy and jealousy as I see pregnant women and hear of a new baby in someone’s life. Help me not to deny Your goodness and Your perfect plan for another as you bless them with children. Teach me not to compare my life with others, to take every negative, envious and jealous thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I ask for Your help to rejoice in the truth with others as I hear of a pregnancy or birth. Thank you for teaching me Your way to love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

I Corinthians 13:4-7, II Corinthians 10:5, 12

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Becki Guillory

This is so good. I have been struggling with comparing my life to others, and and at times ‘wishing’ mine was more like theirs. The sermon I heard on Sunday also reiterated resting in God’s plan for our lives. God has definitely been helping me with this, thanks for sharing the words that bring life! 🙂

Lesli Westfall

You’re welcome Becki! I believe we all, at one point or another, compare ourselves with others. Thank goodness God keeps us on course.

Love you,


I keep coming back to this particular prayer. I’m struggling with “fairness” and feeling like I’m being punished by God. A 14 year old girl in our church just gave birth to a baby girl and placed her for adoption, and I find myself thinking “Lord why not us?” I know God loves us and His plan is perfect, but in my human, broken heart I wonder why that woman, or that couple, and not us…

Lesli Westfall

Hi Tori, I saw you commented on a recent post, the prayer for jealousy and envy. I’m so sorry you’re feel this way. I empathize with you. What you are feeling is very ‘natural’ along this journey. You are right it doesn’t seem fair, all these babies being born all around us. But truly and unfortunately this world is NOT fair.

I want to be quick to respond and say, “God is not punishing you.” How do I know that to be true? Well, if you are a born-again believer in Jesus Christ., He has forgiven you. (John 3:16) There is nothing you could’ve done, or do, or will ever do that will keep you from the love of God. (Romans 8:35-39) And if we have the love of God, how can any punishment be a part of that? I do know you may feel that way because of the the road you’re on right now, but you know what? God does not condemn you (Romans 8:1), so please don’t condemn yourself in thinking you’re being punished because you don’t have the desire of your heart yet.

Years ago, I felt what you are feeling. When my dearest friend told me she was expecting, it felt like someone threw cold water on me. It was like I was in a bubble. The misunderstanding, the jealousy, envy and the wondering ‘why?” I thought to myself, “I’ve been married longer than she has!’ We’ve tried for 4 years and she got pregnant in 4 minutes! Not fair, God, not fair!” Yet one night as I was struggling so much with this, I just had it out with God! I got my Bible out and was yelling up to the heavens, ticked at God, ranting and raving. But when I finally shut-up, I felt His sweet impression upon me…it was if He said, “Lesli, are you going to remain jealous and upset over the life I HAVE CREATED in her womb, or you going to stop and intercede and pray for that child?” Whoa! an humbling experience. To make a long story short, now, this child I was so jealous of when his mom was expecting him is one of the sweetest little boys, WHO LOVES ME! Every time I see him, he runs to me with open arms… What more could I ask for?

Tori, there is a reason why you keep coming back to this prayer. It’s God’s Word, His love drawing you to Him. Keep crying out to Him. He wants to heal you of the grief infertility causes. I encourage you to keep praying, get real with Him and let Him love upon you. YOU ARE PRECIOUS TO HIM.

I’m committed to praying for you, hang in there!

Love in Christ,



Thank you for this prayer…
Also struggling with envy and jealousy and i have prayed many times for God to heal me.

Lesli Westfall

You’re more than welcome. Keep praying God is faithful to give you just what you need at the right time! He loves you.

🙂 Lesli

Lesli Westfall

You’re welcom, Mrs. HH!



I just came upon this prayer on your blog, and it is what I needed. Thank you so much for posting this! I’m in between jobs right now, and since I’m home, not working…my mind always goes to thoughts of jealousy and envy when I hear of a new announcement. I’ve cried out to God, and I know He has a plan for my husband and I, but I too see pregnant teenage girls or couples that don’t seem prepared or I hear women complaining about a pregnancy & I think, “Why them and not us???” I’ve even went so far as to ask God to take the desire for children out of our hearts b/c it hurts too much…this hasn’t happened yet, and we are still trying. ALL that to say, I need healing from these feelings of jealousy and envy, and I’m going to ask God daily to heal me from that.

Lesli Westfall

Hi Brenda,

Thanks for you honesty in your comment. What you’re feeling is natural and very normal in this season of your life. I too, have prayed for God to take away the desire because the pain, well…it just hurts too much. But you are doing the right thing, praying ‘daily’ to God. He is faithful to comfort you, to make you stronger so when you see others who are pregnant and with children, it won’t crater you. Most of all, He’ll continue to water the desire of your heart for a family, for His plans are good for you, with a great future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11.

I’ll be praying for you. Hang in there! This ministry is here for you.

Bless you,