for Miscarriage or Stillbirth

How to Respond

  • Acknowledge the loss.  Whether it has happened at five or forty weeks of pregnancy. The loss of life is felt deeply.
  • Your silent presence can speak volumes.
  • Show love, “love never fails.”  I Corinthians 13:8
  • Note the date when the miscarriage or stillbirth occurred and acknowledge it the next year.
  • Give a call or send a card on Mothers or Fathers Day.


What NOT to Say

  • “Don’t worry; your baby is up in heaven safe.”
  • “You’ll get pregnant again; you’ll have other children.”
  • “I thought you’d be over this by now.”
  • “Why are you so sad?  You were only a few weeks along.”
  • “I guess it wasn’t meant to be.”
  • “All things work together for the good!”