What is Prayer?
Talking to God from your heart, outwardly or silently, just like you are talking to a friend.
The topics below may reflect how you feel from time to time walking on the barren road, stumbling on a rock or coming up against a boulder along the way. There is a prayer for each topic and the scriptures supporting that prayer. You can recite it, or read the scriptures and make a personal prayer of your own. However you choose to do it, remember prayer is not a magical formula to get what you want, it’s simply a way of communicating with God. Praying to God, talking to Him, pouring out your soul is the beginning of hope and healing from the grief of infertility.
There are four essential elements for each of the following prayers:
- Praying the Word of God, the Bible
- Asking in Jesus’ name
The Bible teaches us that God’s word is alive, active, and powerful when we pray His Word we are praying His perfect, divine will. Praise and thanksgiving in prayer expresses our heart’s adoration and love for Him.
When we ask in Jesus’ name, we glorify Him and we receive from Him that our joy may be full.
Psalm 100:4, Hebrews 13:8, I John 5:14-15
All scripture listed is from the New International Version unless otherwise noted.
“Heavenly Father, as I seek You, You said that ‘You would answer me and deliver me from all my fears.’ I praise You that You are with me, that I have no need to feel discouraged or afraid for my future, or any fertility issues that may lay ahead. Thank you that You are my strength and my help. Bring peace to my troubled heart as You uphold me with Your righteous right hand.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Psalm 34:4, Isaiah 41:10, John 14:27 NAS
“Heavenly Father, I feel so angry and frustrated about my fertility challenges. I ask for Your divine love to flow through me, for Your love is patient and kind, and not easily angered. Help me to be slow in my speech and slow in anger when it comes to dealing with my family members, friends or doctor. Help me not to be angry with you God, for all I am going through and with all that I don’t understand. Most of all, keep me from sinning against You or any one else in my anger. Thank you, Father for the release from anger within my heartIn Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Proverbs 15:18 NAS, I Corinthians 13:4-7, Ephesians 4:26, James 1:19-20
Shame Guilt Condemnation
“Heavenly Father, I thank You that You have given your Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for all my sins; past, present and future. Father, I draw near to You with a sincere heart in confidence, believing that I have been cleansed from a guilty conscience. My fertility challenges have caused me to feel as if I am wearing a cloak of shame, guilt, and condemnation, but I choose to put on your royal robe of righteousness which You graciously give. As I place my trust in you, knowing that I am your child, I praise You, that I will never be condemned or put to shame. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Isaiah 61:10, Psalm 25:2, 32:5, Romans 8:1-2, 10:11, Hebrews 10:22
“Heavenly Father, your Word tells me how to love and being envious and jealous is not part of your divine love. Father, I am struggling with envy and jealousy as I see pregnant women and hear of a new baby in someone’s life. Help me not to deny Your goodness and Your perfect plan for another as you bless them with children. Teach me not to compare my life with others, to take every negative, envious and jealous thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I ask for Your help to rejoice in the truth with others as I hear of a pregnancy or birth. Thank you for teaching me Your way to love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
I Corinthians 13:4-7, II Corinthians 10:5, 12
“Heavenly Father, I praise You that you were pleased to make me Your own and have accepted me in the beloved family of God because of your dear Son, Jesus Christ. Father, these fertility challenges have made me feel forsaken and forgotten, I feel as if no one sees or cares about my desire for children. However, I will make the choice not to be led by my feelings but believe your Word. Your Word tells me that ‘I am not hidden from Your sight, that you won’t leave me as an orphan, that You know every detail of my life, even the very numbers of hair on my head and that I am worth more than any sparrow.’ Thank you! I praise you that nothing can separate me from Your love, not now or forever! In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
I Samuel 12:22, Isaiah 49:15-16, Matthew 10:29-31, 28:20, John 14:18, Romans 8:35-39, Ephesians 1:6 KJV, Hebrews 4:13 NAS
“Heavenly Father, it seems as if every month brings about disappointment because I pray for a child and nothing happens! I don’t understand why I have to suffer like this! But in your Word You say that I am to rejoice in my sufferings, because it gives me perseverance for the journey ahead, and perseverance brings about better character in me, and character; hope. I praise you for your great love, which has been shed in my heart by your Holy Spirit, which gives me hope that does not disappoint, as I continue to believe in You. Thank you! In Jesus name, Amen.”
Romans 5:3-5, I Peter 2:6 NAS
“Heavenly Father, I ask that You will fulfill Your purpose for my life, my desire for children. Help me not to lean upon my own understanding or to rationalize the thoughts in my head. When there is a fork in the road and I don’t know which path to take, I ask You will direct a straight path on this fertility journey. Teach me to know when to move forward or to stop or rest along the way. As I put my trust in You, I thank and praise You that You are perfecting every little detail that concerns me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Psalm 138:8, Proverbs 3:5-6
“Heavenly Father, waiting is extremely hard, especially when I see so many pregnant women and little children. As I wait on the desire of my heart, help me to delight myself in You, to be strong and of good courage, to not go ahead of your perfect plan. I praise and thank You, as I wait on You, that my strength is restored, so I can soar like an eagle. I choose to place my trust in You in waiting, believing You will answer me and refresh me
along this fertility journey. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Psalm 37:4, Psalm 38:15, Psalm 130:5, Isaiah 40:31
“Heavenly Father, I praise You because You have created me and have a perfect plan for my life. I thank You that you desire to prosper me, not to harm me, to give me hope and a future! You have started this good work in me and I ask that you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. Even though I don’t understand why I have to go through these fertility challenges, I believe that You are a God that is working all things together for my good. Thank you! In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 8:28, Philippians 1:6
“Heavenly Father, a feeling of anxiousness has come over me. At times my mind is racing and my heart beats fast. Father, help me to do as You say in Your Word, that ‘in prayer and petition, with a thankful heart to let my requests be made known to You. ‘As I lay my requests at Your feet, I exchange my anxious thoughts for a mind of peace. Perfect peace as you have promised, when my mind is stayed upon You. I praise You for that peace that passes all understanding. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Isaiah 26:3-4, Philippians 4:6
Sometimes a woman may feel infertility is a result of punishment for something in her past, such as abortion, but nothing could be further from the truth.
Father God, You are the Give of life. You say, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” My heart is broken and I am emotionally numb. I made the choice to have an abortion and to remove life from me. I was overwhelmed, and made the choice out of misunderstanding and convenience. There was so much pressure on me. I am grieved by what I did. I am more than sorry. I ask for your forgiveness. you promised to “forgive all my sins…and crown me with loving kindness and compassion.” I receive your forgiveness and I thank you for your love for me. My action condemns and haunts me. I cannot escape my thought. I thank You, “there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” I ask for freedom from condemning, shameful thoughts and healing for my emotional wounds. You said, “Choose life that you and your children my live.” From this moment forward, “I choose life.” and I ask for another gift of a child. Thank you.”
In Jesus’ name, amen.
Psalm 139:13, Psalm 103:3-4, Romans 8:1, Deuteronomy 30:19, Psalm 127:3, Psalm 113:9, Isaiah 61:7
Miscarriage Infant Loss
“Heavenly Father, the loss is heartbreaking. I feel as if I am walking through the valley of the shadow of death, but your Word tells me ‘to fear no evil, for You are with me.’ Father, You said ‘You would never leave me or forsake me’. I ask for your presence now to bless and comfort my heart that mourns over the loss of life in my womb. I praise You when You say in Your Word, ‘that none will miscarry or be barren in your land and that you will give a full life span’. Father, I am believing and declaring Your Word over my future. Thank you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Joshua 1:5, Psalm 23:4, Matthew 5:4, Exodus 23:26
“Heavenly Father, God of compassion, I praise you that You are the God of all comfort. I ask you to remove this burden of grief from my heart for I believe that You care for me. Thank you that You sent your Son, Jesus Christ, who was acquainted and can identify with my sorrow and grief. I ask You to turn this mourning into joy, and I praise You that joy will be my strength for the days ahead. Thank You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Nehemiah 8:10, Isaiah 53:4 NAS, Isaiah 58:11, II Corinthians 1:3-4
Abba Father, as we have sought You through this infertility battle, You have placed the desire in us to grow our family through adoption. Thank You for setting apart our children before they were born and placing them with us. We as You to order our steps and surround us with favor as a shield during this adoption process. Father, give us wisdom and discernment as we meet with officials—the adoption agency, social workers, court-appointed officials—and complete the necessary home study and paperwork. We ask You to release us from unnecessary guilt the enemy would try to place upon us for choosing adoption, knowing we’ve been trusting You from the start with the desire for a family. We thank You, for we know You’ll work all these things for our good, the good of the birth parents, and our children yet to come.
In Jesus’ name, amen.
Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 5:12, Psalm 68:6, Psalm 82:3 AMP, Matthew 6:33 KJV, Romans 8:1, Romans 8:28, James 1:5
“Heavenly Father, as I await these test results I choose to cast down every imagination; fear, anxiety and worry; bringing them into the captivity of Christ. I thank you that I have no need to fear bad news because You strengthen me and give me hope as trust steadfast in You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Psalm 31:4, Isaiah 41:10, II Corinthians 10:5, Psalm 112:7
“Heavenly Father, this fertility journey is not easy on my relationship with others. Help me to be silent or to watch what I say, and that no unwholesome word will come out of my mouth, but help me to speak with wisdom, with kindness and compassion. For my husband/wife, the one you gave as my partner in life, I ask for Your help to respect him/her and their desires for a family. Help me with my mother, father and other family members, to love and honor them, even though they may not understand our decisions on this fertility journey. For my friends, help me not to take an offense at their silence of my fertility issues or to be hurt by their way of helping me. I praise You that I am free to love those around me because of Your great love for me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Exodus 20:12, Proverbs 17:17, 31:26, Matthew 7:12, Mark 11:25, I Corinthians 13:4-7, Ephesians 4:29-32, Ephesians 5:33
“Heavenly Father, your Word says, ‘You formed my inward parts, I am fearfully and wonderfully made in Your image’. You made me male and you gave us the command to ‘be fruitful, to multiply and to fill the earth.’ I ask you to complete in me what is lacking. I ask for the health of my reproductive system to prosper. I thank you for the desire you put in my heart to be a father. By faith I believe that nothing is impossible with You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Genesis 1:28, Psalm 139:13, Luke 1:37, III John 2:2
“Heavenly Father, my biological clock is ticking, as if You didn’t know. As each month passes I feel that I am racing against that clock. Even the doctors speak of the impossibility of bearing children at my age. But I praise You for Your Word, which has not left me hopeless! In Your Word I witness the creative power through the lives of Sarah and Elizabeth who bore children in their old age. Jesus, You say ‘you are the same yesterday, today and forever’. If You did it for them so many years ago, today, I believe You can do it for me! As You say, ‘nothing is impossible for You!’ Thank you, for working possibility into my life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Genesis 17:17, Psalm 92:12-15, Luke 1:7,24, 37 Hebrews 13:8
“Heavenly Father, I thank You that You sent your Son, Jesus Christ to die on the cross for me. Your Son dying was not in vain, but proved great benefits for me – the forgiveness of all my sin, past, present and future and the healing of all my diseases. Thank you that all of my fertility issues and/or sterility issues with my spouse are not difficult for You! You tell me in Your word that by Your great power and outstretched arm that nothing is too hard for You. I praise You for Your healing virtue in my life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Exodus 15:26, Psalm 103:1-3, Isaiah 53:5, Jeremiah 32:17, James 5:16
“Heavenly Father, You know the path we are to take even before one step. You see how our fertility challenges have brought us to the place of making major financial decisions. Father, give us wisdom regarding our finances as we seek Your direction for our future children. We believe Your Word and praise You that You will supply all of our needs according to Your riches in glory through Christ Jesus. Father, we will be obedient to your Word to honor you with our wealth, with our tithe and offerings. Thank you for Your abundance in our finances. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Proverbs 3:9-10, Malachi 3:8-11, Philippians 4:19
“Heavenly Father, I thank You that You have the perfect plan to bring about a family in my life. Father, I am faced with so many decisions, the decision to _________________ ___________________ . I ask You to instruct me and teach me in the way I should go. As Your eye is upon me, counsel me along this fertility journey. Since You have consecrated life before it is born, I pray for Your help in my decisions to uphold the sanctity of life. Thank You Father, for leading me in peace. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 32:8
“Heavenly Father, in your Word you said when you made creation, man and woman, you looked upon them and saw that ‘it was very good.’ Father, my empty womb has caused me to feel bad, like less of a woman, incomplete. Father in heaven, as Your Word says, through faith in You, help me to endure this fertility journey. I thank You that I am complete in spirit, soul and body, lacking in nothing. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Genesis 1:31, Colossians 2:10, James 1:4
“Heavenly Father, thank You that I am fearfully and wonderfully made by You! I desire faith like Abraham, believing that ‘You exist and that You are a rewarder of those who diligently seek You’. You said, ‘I would find You, God, when I seek You with all of my heart’. Father, I choose to seek You first, along this fertility journey. I praise You as You said in the Bible, that ‘You would bless the fruit of my womb, the number of my days you would fulfill and that none shall be barren among your people’. I thank You that infertility and sterility have been nailed to the Cross of Calvary through the sacrifice of Your dear Son, Jesus Christ! I thank you now, for giving me faith and hope to believe for a miracle! In Jesus’ name, Amen!”
Deuteronomy 7:12-13, Psalm 113:9, 139:14, Matthew 6:33, Luke 1:36-37, Hebrews 11:1, 6 & 11
Prayer of Salvation
The road of infertility is not an easy one to travel. Along the journey, it seems as if you are all alone and weary, but there is Someone who desires to be your fellow companion. He is the One who loves you, the One who can carry you through life and the One who can help you reach your final destination: motherhood. His name is Jesus Christ, God’s one and only Son. If you have not invited this companion into your life, it is simple; you can ask Him right now! Read the scriptures below and recite the prayer, not only will you have His loving compassion and help along the fertility journey, but also you are guaranteed salvation, eternal life in heaven. ”For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
Jesus answered, “I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except through me.”
“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved.”
To receive Christ as your Lord and Savior, recite this prayer:
“Dear Lord Jesus, I am a sinner and need your forgiveness. I ask that you will come into my heart, to be my Lord and Savior. I trust You with my life. Thank you for the forgiveness of my sins, and eternal life. I ask this in Your name, Amen.”
If you prayed this prayer, please contact Dancing Upon Barren Land.